What is your emotional response to the Middle East conflict?

I have been exposing myself, failing and learning, as a bystander of the Israel-Palestine conflict.

From my Jewish ancestors who died in the holocaust, I learnt how important it is to stand up to oppression. From my German ancestors who were in Berlin during the second world war, I learnt to be an Active Bystander, not a passive one. From my English ancestors I learnt about the sins of being a coloniser, oppressor and unconsciously racist.

I try to stand in the world as an active peacemaker, but as well as trying (and failing sometimes) to express love to all parties, I also need to speak to the truth about injustice. I am learning how to do it in a way that people can hear, rather than closing and shouting back. If people cannot hear me, why speak at all? So I am on a journey of learning how to have a voice and to be heard.

Do you fight (argue), flight (keep quiet), freeze (ignore/dissociate) or fawn (be the nice guy/gal) when engaged in or watching the Middle East conflict?

How can you centre yourself?

What do you stand for?

I love the quotation below:

Peacemaking doesn’t mean passivity.
It is the act of interrupting injustice
without mirroring injustice,
the act of disarming evil
without destroying the evildoer,
the act of finding a third way
that is neither fight nor flight
but the careful, arduous pursuit
of reconciliation and justice.
It is about a revolution of love
that is big enough to set both
the oppressed and the oppressors free.”
Shane Claiborne, Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove 

Do you centre every day?

Studies increasingly point out that we heal primarily in and through the body, not just through the rational brain or talking. This happens through what our bodies experience and do – not through what we think, or cognitively figure out.

Most people could benefit from a daily embodied centring practise, and a quick method that they can use at any time if they feel stressed or off-centre.

This is particularly important if you are touched by anxiety, stress, or traumatic events: for example, if you are impacted by the cost-of-living crisis, the events in the Middle East, the Russian war against Ukraine, work or relationship issues, or grief.

You probably have a method you are already familiar with:

  • Mindfully paying attention to your belly and your heart: you have a “gut brain” and a “heart brain” – independent nervous systems that regulate emotion
  • Muscle relaxation throughout your body
  • Repetitive prayer
  • Yoga, tai chi, and qigong
  • Mindfulness meditation
  • Resource meditations

What do you use? How might you use it more?

Do you need to deepen or broaden the range of options for getting into a settled state?

Whatever practise you use, make sure that it settles you in your body, and that your breathing and your heart rate are calmed.

I do this every morning, and anytime in the day that I need to settle and centre.

It is
a radical act of love
just to sit down
and be quiet for a time
by yourself
Jon KabatZinn  

Centering can support you
in retaining focus,
promoting relaxation,
and relieving anxiety.
American Psychological Association, 2022 

I meditate so that my mind
cannot complicate my life
Sri Chinmoy 

We need a quantum leap of inner resources

The world is in hiatus – the cost-of-living crisis, the wars in Ukraine and the Middle East; populist far-right governments and loss of democratic rights, the potential escalation of conflict in a divided world and the pressing needs of the environmental emergency.

How do we live with this? How do we stay resilient? How do we bring our best to the world?

Psychology develops psychological resources.

Now, we need more of:

The resources of our community – local and global. We need sangha (people who see our souls), we need deep conversations, we need to draw on positive role-models who inspire peace, compassion, non-violence, and connection across cultural boundaries. How do you increase this support for yourself?

Groundswell of support of mother-earth – the trees, winds rivers, lakes, fresh air, grass, animals, birds, and don’t forget, your own nature, your body. What can you do? How can you have more?

A felt sense of spirit in everything: perhaps from archetypal figures who inspire and guide us, but also from the underlying luminous presence, present everywhere, in every moment. What is your practise? Are you ready to meet this underlying luminous presence waiting for you?

There is so much more available to you than you know.

If you spend more time connecting with your community – personal, local and global; with nature, which you are; with spirit, which is your essence; then you will have all the resources you need for the challenges of this life and for this epoque in human history.

The world needs us to be the best we can be at this time.

Change will not come if we wait
for some other person
or some other time.
We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.
We are the change that we seek.
Barack Obama

I alone cannot change the world,
but I can cast a stone across the waters
to create many ripples.
Mother Teresa

The greatest glory in living
lies not in never falling,
but in rising every time we fall.
Nelson Mandela

Empower Yourself, Empower the Community

Nicolas Castell

Aligning what you feel spiritually (or your awe at the magnificence of the universe) with your sense of who you are and your beliefs and values, empowering the skills that let you give your gift to the world, is the work of a week, a year, a lifetime!

Here is a short video about the free workshop I will run next Thursday Empower Yourself, Empower the Community.

Click here to register and join me



is the path to integrity,

and integrity is the path

to true success.

Brian Tracy

In the space of inner coherence,

you find peace, clarity, and the power

to create the life you desire.

Eckhart Tolle

Your life becomes a masterpiece

when you live in personal coherence

with your values and passions.

Robin Sharma

Empower yourself for the autumn next Thursday

Dilts Logical Levels can be facilitated as a deep meditation that aligns:

  • what you do
  • with your skills and strengths
  • with your core beliefs and values
  • with your sense of who you are when you are at your best
  • with your inner, half-hidden, knowledge of the essence of existence (which you know secretly, because it is implicit in your being)

However many times you do this exercise, it is incredibly inspiring. I once did it with a friend everyday for a month!

On Thursday 5th October, we will do this, both individually and, as part of the Generative Citizen community:

  • What do we want to do as a generative community?
  • What are our skills and strengths?
  • What are our values and beliefs?
  • What is our sense of identity as a community?
  • How do we hold space for the ever-present origin?

Alone we can do so little

together we can do so much.

Helen Keller

You are not alone.

We are all together

in this journey of life.

Lailah Gifty Akita

In community,

we find the courage to be vulnerable

and the strength to be compassionate

Henri Nouwen

The best way to find yourself

is to lose yourself

in the service of others.

Mahatma Gandhi

Do you feel seen, heard, and loved, just as you are?

A sense of community is a key factor of wellbeing, but in our postmodern age, the people we spend most time with may not be our “sangha” or soul tribe.

Who are your soul tribe? Do you have more than one? Do you have an urge to be seen more, understood more, to hang-out with people where you don’t have to explain yourself, who love who you are, who delight in your qualities; and see your woundedness as a gift that is intrinsic to you fulfilling your potential?

For me, a community of like-minded people with multiple levels of identity – individual, community, nature, and spirit (the ever-present origin), helps me feel sane in an insane world!

This is a key purpose of the Generative Citizen community, and we have three events this autumn to build the community:

On Thursday 21st September 2023, the Generative Change guru, Robert Dilts will run a session on Building a Generative Vision for a Better World.

On Thursday 5th October: I will run Empower Yourself – Empower the Community when we will use Dilts Logical Levels meditation to reboot our individual inner alignment and also empower the community field. Empower yourself and the community.

On Thursday 19th October, the famous co-developer of NLP, Connirae Andreas, will take us on a journey with a Practical way to move from Separate Self, to Being the Whole . This builds on the topic we have been exploring about the landscape of the spirit beyond orthodox tradition, where we meet the ever-present origin directly.

If you want to go fast,

go alone.

If you want to go far,

go together.

𝘈𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘣

Community is a sign

that love is possible

in a materialistic world.

𝘑𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘝𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘦𝘳

Community is not a place

to escape from the world

but a place to engage with it

on a deeper level.

𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘬𝘦𝘳 𝘑. 𝘗𝘢𝘭𝘮𝘦𝘳

 This is a the fourth in a series of blogs, the previous ones were:

  1. Do you know how Nature talks and thinks?  https://www.lifetalent.com/do-you-know-how-nature-talks-and-thinks/
  2. Do you know the path to freedom?  https://www.lifetalent.com/do-you-know-the-path-to-freedom/
  3. Why aren’t people doing more about the climate emergency? https://www.lifetalent.com/why-arent-people-doing-more-about-the-climate-emergency/

We have a WhatsApp group for psychologically minded people interested in protecting nature called Generative Earth Protectors – click here to join it.

Why aren’t people doing more about the climate emergency?

With the almost unimaginable scale of the impending catastrophe 1 for humanity with climate change, why aren’t people taking action to mitigate it?

Research on the “Bystander Effect” shows that 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙮, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙖𝙣𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙞𝙩.


There are two factors:

●︎ 𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆: the more onlookers, the less responsibility an

individual will feel to take action.

●︎ 𝗦𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲: individuals watch the behaviour of those around them to determine how to act. If other people are doing nothing, then maybe it is ok to do nothing.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣 𝘼𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝘽𝙮𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧:

●︎ 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆: say “𝘪𝘧 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘮𝘦, 𝘸𝘩𝘰?”

●︎ 𝗦𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲: use personal conversations, social media, networking, your public behaviours, to influence others to act with you. Use your influence.

There are two further reasons why people don’t take action:

●︎ 𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱: individual change is needed, but also political and international change. How can we influence this? One step and one person at a time: if we fund environmental groups and volunteer our skills to them, post on social media, go on demonstrations to Parliament, this will be noticed by the political parties. If your government changes its policy, other governments will notice and be influenced.

●︎ 𝗣𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗶𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲: your personal, family and work

commitments seem more urgent than climate problems.

Yet if we have runway global warming, there will be no future for your children and grandchildren. When you are old, and your grandchildren say, “𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴?” , what will you answer?

Let’s hold our heads high and safeguard the lives of future generations and our grandchildren.


The Earth should not be

a worse place after my life

than it was when I was born here.

𝘙𝘰𝘣 𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘵

You are not helping the planet,

you are not helping nature,

you ARE the planet,

you ARE nature,

you are helping yourself

𝘉𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘮𝘣𝘪𝘬𝘪 𝘏𝘢𝘣𝘺𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘢

The climate crisis is both the easiest and the

hardest issue we have ever faced.

The easiest because we know what we must do.

We must stop the emissions of greenhouse gases.

The hardest because our current economics

are still totally dependent on burning fossil

fuels, and thereby destroying ecosystems in

order to create everlasting economic growth.

𝘎𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘢 𝘛𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘨


 This is a the third in a series of blogs, the previous ones were:

  1. Do you know how Nature talks and thinks?  https://www.lifetalent.com/do-you-know-how-nature-talks-and-thinks/
  2. Do you know the path to freedom?   https://www.lifetalent.com/do-you-know-the-path-to-freedom/

To read the next in the series, click here: https://www.lifetalent.com/do-you-feel-seen-heard-and-loved-just-as-you-are/



We have a WhatsApp group for psychologically minded people interested in protecting nature called Generative Earth Protectors – click here to join it.

Do you know the path to freedom?

Your life involves two different worlds.

In one, you discover your Life-Calling and fulfil it. To help, you heal the wounds that stop you from being free.

In the second, you use mindfulness to go beyond time – beyond past and future. Your past disappears and there is no future.

Even a glimpse of this is enough to change your life.

Once you have glimpsed this, you know that past, future, achievement, and your psychological story, are a fabrication.

At some deep level in yourself you know that this moment is already perfect.

I cannot say that I am in nirvana all the time or even very often! I fall into the “𝘱𝘰𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦” story of my life, yet even then, a part of me knows that this is a fiction.

I am breaking the habit of falling into the old story. I am becoming increasingly skillful in bringing myself back to the eternal present, where past and future do not exist.

My sense of identity is becoming less about what I achieve and more about the luminous divinity of consciousness. With every step I feel a little more free.

Realize deeply

that the present moment

is all you have.

Make the NOW

the primary focus of your life.

𝘌𝘤𝘬𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘛𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦

Because you are alive,

everything is possible.

𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘕𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘏𝘢𝘯𝘩

I hope for nothing.

I fear nothing.

I am free.

𝘕𝘪𝘬𝘰𝘴 𝘒𝘢𝘻𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘻𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘴

This is the second in a series of blogs, the previous one was:
1. Do you know how Nature talks and thinks?  https://www.lifetalent.com/do-you-know-how-nature-talks-and-thinks/

To read the next in the series, click here:







We have a WhatsApp group for psychologically minded people interested in protecting nature called Generative Earth Protectors – click here to join it.

Do you know how Nature talks and thinks?

𝘖𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘦𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘸𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘴, 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦, 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘤𝘳𝘰𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘤, 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 “𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴”¹.

𝘐𝘧 𝘸𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘪𝘵 .

An ancient forest, like the Amazon, is not just the trees and plants, but also the animals, and the people who live and hunt there².

Once a year in the Amazon, at an unpredictable time, plump winged ants fly from their nests to mate with other colonies, usually following rain, lightening and floods. Somehow the colonies coordinate with other colonies, and many other species watch and wait for this hour-long migration, including humans, bats, birds, foxes, snakes, and small felines. All the creatures of the forest watch the signs, and when the short migration happens, they feast on these savory delicacies.

All the beings involved in this process are recognizing the signs and habits of the forest. Signs give us information about past and future.

Nature talks through signs. Any change that happens in nature is a sign³.

Signs are the language of nature.

A change of temperature or season, rainfall, a falling tree, birdsong, a human looking at an animal or an animal looking at a human. Signs only become useful when recognized by another being. The sound of a deer moving in the undergrowth is useful if you are a predator or hunter. Some signs are repeated – “habits” if you like. For example, the change of the seasons and the flowering of a plant. Creatures learn to predict these habits, and what’s more, to make a habit of predicting these habits.

Noticing the signs of nature and the repeated activities (habits) is thinking.

Beings that think have Selves.

When the village women hear their dogs barking, the tone of the bark tells the women that they are hunting an animal, perhaps a deer. When the barking turns to yelping, the women know that the dogs have now become the hunted. The dogs have misinterpreted what they saw in the forest and the deer they were hunting has turned out to be a mountain lion. They have become the victims of their own mistaken thinking.

𝘕𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬, 𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵.

Look deep into nature,
and then you will understand
everything better.
𝘈𝘭𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘵 𝘌𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘪𝘯

The clearest way
into the Universe
is through a forest wilderness.
𝘑𝘰𝘩𝘯 𝘔𝘶𝘪𝘳

Nature is the true revelation
of the Deity to man.
𝘌𝘥𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘉𝘶𝘳𝘬𝘦


 This is the first in a series of blogs

To read the next in the series, click here:






1 Kals, E., Schumacher, D. and Montada, L. (1999) ‘Emotional affinity toward nature as a motivational
basis to protect nature’, Environment and Behavior, 31(2), pp. 178–202.
2 Kohn, E., 2013. How forests think: toward an anthropology beyond the human. Berkeley and Los
Angeles: University of California Press.
3 Peirce, C., 1998. What is a Sign?. In: Peirce Edition Project, ed., The Essential Peirce: Selected
Philosophical Writings. Vol. 2. Bloomington: Indiana University Press.

A new dating app for Gods, Goddesses, Teachers, and Saints?

The divine is everywhere, all the time, if we slow down enough to notice.
Yet it is also helps to have some guidance, a mentor, or an inspirational teacher.
A humorous idea is that someone should come up with a dating app for Gods,
Goddesses, Teachers and Saints.

You fill out your profile, and then describe the divine partner you are looking for.
Then the app shows you a list of possible dates, and you swipe left (uninterested) or
right (interested). Then you start messaging with the divine beings that you are
interested in, asking them questions, seeing how you relate to them, exchanging
photos. Finally you whittle the list down and eventually go on a date with the being.
The first dates are exploratory, but over time you become more intimate and loving.
Then both parties; you as an individual, and the archetypal being develop “faith”.
Faith is love that remains consistent over time. At some point you decide this is a
sacred covenant for this lifetime and beyond, and you get “married” to your divine

Easy, eh?

Have a rendezvous with your transcendent being every day.
A deeper approach is when it seems that the divine form and tradition chooses you.
When someone close to me was 13 she found herself at an open air Taizé service.
Taizé is a Christian community located in France which has attracted thousands of
young people with its focus on chanting, singing repetitive short phrases in many
languages in candlelight. During the service she had an experience of being
overwhelmed by love, a love that was real and that lies at the heart of the universe,
and a sense of being utterly seen and known by this love. The feeling lessened over
the next few years but in her first week at university a stranger knocked on her
window and asked if she wanted to go to church. She hadn’t thought of going but
said yes. On that first occasion she had a powerful sense that the other people at the
church knew much more fully what she had experienced at the age of thirteen, and
she again experienced something of that love and joy. That day, she met people who
have remained friends and are her spiritual community, and over the years their
children have grown up together.

My own story is that I had a student, Diane Stanley who was a Tibetan Buddhist, and I
asked her “where might I find a Dzogchen (nondual Buddhist) master?” She looked at
me strangely and said “come to my house on Tuesday”. It was there that I met
Shenphen Dawa Rinpoche, who I had an intimate relationship with for over 20 years
until he died, and I will continue to be guided by him forever. It felt to me,
poetically somehow, that Diana was “sent” to bring me to my teacher.

As a wise man once said, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened to you.” 1

The real guide

is one who makes you see
your inner beauty,

not the one who wants to be admired.



The company of saints
is like a gentle breeze
that carries the fragrance of divinity



The spiritual teacher
is like a mirror.
He reflects the light
of your own Self back to you.




1 Matthew 7:7 (New International Version, The Bible)

God/Goddess/Buddha Nature is everywhere, all the time

The divine is everywhere, all the time, if we slow down enough to notice.

When I gaze in a baby’s eyes, or look at flowers growing out of a stone wall or take time to notice the little cues that hint at the lives and history of people on the underground in the rush hour; or wonder at the beauty of swan, or a large moon in a night sky, I have a sense that life is sacred.

For me, this mainly happens when I slow down enough to appreciate what is around me, and in me. When my intellect is racing away – the mind disconnected from my body – spirituality can only be thoughts and theology.

When I slow down and experience my senses: what I see, what I hear and the feelings in my body, then I feel more in touch with the wonder of the great mystery of existence.

Why bother? A survey of the scientific literature[1],[2],[3] shows that spirituality:

  • increases well-being
  • increases resilience in the face of suffering
  • reduces onset of physical and mental illness
  • reduces mortality (the likelihood of dying sooner rather than later)
  • increases the likelihood of recovery from physical or mental illness


The American mystic James Finley, student of Thomas Merton suggests this experience of the divine can happen in many ways:

  1. Nature
  2. Human Intimacy
  3. Solitude
  4. Art
  5. Meditation and Contemplation
  6. Prayer
  7. Spontaneous moments of awakening
  8. Suffering
  9. Healing Process
  10. Philosophical reflection
  11. Scientific Enquiry


When have you had experiences in your life that might be described as sacred, holy or of a transcendent reality?

  1. Nature
    Have you had moments in nature, or having been in mountains or by the sea at the end of a long holiday, of being connected to something greater than your own life?
  2. Human Intimacy
    Has there ever been a moment of love, or in lovemaking, when the feeling of opening or union has transcended the mundanity of everyday living?
  3. Solitude
    Have you ever found great peace in solitude on a retreat or in nature?
  4. Art
    Have you ever had a transcendent experience in making art of observing art?
  5. Meditation and Contemplation
    Have you ever meditated and found a great sense of joy or peace?
  6. Prayer
    Has your calling out in prayer, either the great longing toward the divine, or the feeling of being listened to, given you a deep experience of being connected to something greater than yourself?
  7. Spontaneous moments of awakening
    Have you ever had a heightened experience of joy, bliss or being one with life?
  8. Suffering
    Have you ever had such a great suffering that you knew you could not change this on your own, and felt the urge to put yourself and your life in the hands of a transcendent power?
  9. Healing Process
    Have you ever experienced a healing process when you felt some spontaneous grace, or divine gift was at work in the healing process?
  10. Philosophical reflection
    Did you ever have a break-through asking intellectual questions, such has the philosopher Heideger’s questions:
    ‘Why is there anything at all?’
    ‘Why is there something rather than nothing?’
    ‘Why are there beings at all, instead of Nothing?’
  11. Scientific enquiry
    When you think scientifically about nature and the universe, do you ever get a sense of awe or wonder?


Buddha nature is our true nature.

It is the pure, luminous awareness

that is always present,

guiding us on our path.

Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo

In every particle of creation,

in every aspect of life,

we can witness the presence of God.

His divine energy flows

through everything, connecting all beings.

  Eckhart Tolle

God is the everpresent,

eternal force that sustains the universe.

His love and grace surround us constantly,

guiding us on our journey.

John O’Donohue

You can read more about the spiritual in the second blog in this series: A new dating app for Gods, Goddesses, Teachers, and Saints?


[1] George, L., Larson, D., Koenig, H. and McCullough, M. (2000). Spirituality and Health: What We Know, What We Need to Know. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 19(1), pp.102-116.

[2] Seybold, K. and Hill, P. (2001). The Role of Religion and Spirituality in Mental and Physical Health. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 10(1), pp.21-24.

[3] Carmody, J., Reed, G., Kristeller, J. and Merriam, P. (2008). Mindfulness, spirituality, and health-related symptoms. Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 64(4), pp.393-403.

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